Weird name for a blog post right? Welp, that is how I feel about this topic. The chicken isn't going to fry anymore, no matter how much heat you put on it, change the pan/pot/air fryer, get a new range or not. The chicken will not fry.
In recent weeks I have sat back and observed others close to me, others not close to me, and of course myself. I have seen that I am the way I am because of my past and experiences...of course that is moot. However, that's the pivot. For example, you can tell someone about your past trauma or triumph and another will chime in with their story (which of course is worse than yours) to either relate to your tragedy, expose the heroics of their triumph, or create the pivot point to get the attention you had initially from others listening to your story. That is that pivot that changes the conversation and becomes one of focusing on the severity of the trauma, the effects of the trauma, all the bullshit within the trauma, and not on the person who was initially telling their tale of trials and tribulations. That pivot is a damn bitch. Yes we ALL have done it. What's the reason why? What is the use of the comparison? Is this the basis of arguments for rationalizing behavior that is wrong then, wrong now, and wrong in the future? Is it a part of how we explain why we do wrong stuff that was wrong then, wrong now, and wrong in the future?
Watch the big question coming up. Is the use of the comparison to get reprieve to those that did us wrong in our past or to show that is was fucked up then, fucked up now, and fucked up in the future? Last one I promise... is the pivot our right (as the ones hurt by these actions) to give the reason/excuse why we can let the shit go and move on and live? You will have to answer that for yourself.
Is the pivot we use an excuse...or a reason? I think we crave the attention we get from our past experiences and the childhood we had. Whether the childhood was good, bad, or indifferent, we are effected by it...STILL. Whether our experiences in life (outside the family and childhood) was/is good, bad, or indifferent, we are effected by it...STILL. Of course relationships that were not beneficial are STILL effecting us whether good, bad, or indifferent. I suppose that is the way of the world that we have inherited. We try so hard not to make the same mistake that we have made, not make the same mistake we have experienced from others, not make the same mistake we have seen from others, that we make mistakes that we didn't even think we would make. Then we continue the cycle of making that pivot again as to why the mistake was made because we tried not to make it. LOL It is crazy.
Do I have any solutions? Nope. Just realize that the pivot is not wise to lean on. The pivot does not absolve us from what we do and what others have done in this small world. Our paths will cross each other, our past will cross each other, and sometimes the chicken won't fry anymore. The same song, same flavor, same routine, same recipe...it has gotten old and something new should arise. Try frying the fish, it might be better!
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